The duality of abuse symptoms- people judge you . The mirror.

Entitlement vs fear of others
Ambitious vs running away
Bold vs paranoid
Strong vs helpless
Privilige vs scarcity
Having it all vs having nothing
Direspecting home vs searching for home
Playing it safe/ fear of others hurting you vs thinking you are better and acting pricey and judging others to be less
PTSD , grief, need to be comforted and understood vs codependent, wanting others to make you happy.
One is under the ground. And squabling  to latch on to something.
Other is above the sky and demanding to want more.
Lack of ambition/ potential vs lack of opportunity